小心面對情緒
2017年６月25日 下午我在烏溪沙一超市推著購物車購物時， 有人推著購物車從後而上，並叫 " 死開啲 ! " 。我當時不以為然，以為是自己聽錯， 因為無理由有人咁無禮貌嘅，況且就算被人阻一阻都不至於叫人" 死開啲 ! "
數分鐘後，這人又在我背後推著購物車出現， 他快速超越我並故意撞我的購物車。我望著他，心想: 「 原來他先前確實是叫我 " 死開啲 ! "。這時這人說：「我知道你吾順我，一直盯實我，你想點 ! 」跟著用手推我的左肩，隨著用手推我的右肩， 跟著想進一步埋身打我。我當時想：「這人精神 / 情緒可能有些問題，否則這件小事不會那麼狂躁。」 我於是立即向他道歉說：「我的車不小心撞到你的車，不好意思！」
他繼續怒火中燒，用粗口駡我。繼而想衝埋身打我， 我繼續向他道歉，好彩最後他只是大力踢我的購物車便走了。
事後與一位曾在精神康復院工作的朋友談起， 他說遇到這些情況應盡快道歉，他推你第一下應道歉並立即離開， 切勿與他衝突。總之以後給人碰撞都當作無心之失，以避免磨擦 !
這件事件使我記起以下故事：
Parable(寓言故事) : An empty boat
A man decides to meditate alone.
He takes his boat out to the middle of the lake,
(攝於西貢樟木頭)moors (停泊) it there, closeshis eyes and begins his meditation.
(攝於西貢樟木頭)After a few hours of undisturbed silence, he suddenly feels the bump of another boat colliding with his own.
With his eyes still closed, he senses his anger rising, and by the time
he opens his eyes, he is ready to scream at the boatman who dared disturb his meditation.
But when he opens his eyes, he sees it’s an empty boat that had probably got untethered (沒有 拴繩) and floated to the middle of the lake.
At that moment, the man achieves self-realization,and understandsthat the anger is within him; it merely needs the bump of an external object to provoke it out of him.
From then on, whenever he came across someone who
irritated him or provokes him to anger, he reminded himself :
''The other person is merely an empty boat.
The anger is within me......”
In reality, we all have the anger within us, all the time.
Beware ! All it needs is the bump of something like an empty boat to provoke it !
A heart at peace gives life to the body,
(攝於西貢泥涌)but envy rots the bones !
(攝於大嶼山長沙)「嗔」是對不喜歡的事物所產生的排斥及惱恨心理。有些人會因一些 小事但加入了人的因素而大動肝火，迷失理智，甚至會傷害別人，觸犯法紀。
從來硬弩弦先斷，每見剛刀口易傷，惹禍只因閒口舌，招愆多為狠心腸。
一念嗔心起，百萬障門開 !
(攝於烏溪沙)
把放不下的心放下；把看不起的人看起；把看不順的人看順； 把咽不下的氣咽下；把解不開的結解開，才會感悟...忍一時風平浪靜(攝於西貢泥涌)退一步海濶天空 !(攝於大嶼山長沙)張漢聲
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